For those with a deployed spouse/signifigant other.

I know this entire season is hard having a deployed spouse or boyfriend. It seems like everything is based on couples and entire families. I find myself getting sad at the drop of a hat. Watching families shop for gifts together, holding hands while looking at Christmas lights, making dinner together, it is all rather depressing. Even when you have wonderful friends and families who are gracious enough to have you for the festivities, there is still something missing.



But, remember this: We are truly blessed. We have strong, kind, amazing, hard working men who are willing to give up their time with their families so that others may have it. They sacrifice for people they do not know and will never meet. When you feel alone think of that welcome home hug and kiss, the overwhelming sense of joy that we will feel, that first night back in their arms. Think of the look in their eyes knowing that you have supported them through their career, the ups and the downs the hard aspects and the ones that came easily. Think of your kids seeing their Daddy for the first time in ages. How thrilled they will be. Think of how he is their hero in all aspects .



Also, don't forget your friends and family. Those who understand where you are, why you feel the way you do, even those that don’t and just make the attempt to grasp the situation. Thank them for their ongoing support during this trying time and total emotional rollercoaster called a deployment. Remember, they are a shoulder to lean on. Utilize that.



For those who don't understand, for the ones who compare this to a weeklong business trip, for those who think that we are just being "downers" when we are upset or missing them, remember this: they do not understand. It is not their fault; they just have not and most likely, will not, experience this life style. Having patience during those conversations is hard. But pride yourself on keeping your cool. Remember we all cope differently.



I wish you all a Merry Christmas. I pray that all of our men are safe, warm, well fed and will come home soon. I love you all. Thank you for everything you do for me and my family.



~Alyie